PS: I love you

Hi babe,

Do you know something? I love you. I love your eyes and your beautiful smile. I love your body and the way you move. I love how your brain thinks and how fascinating you are. Yes, babe, you are fascinating.

You are unique and you are so special. You are my best friend and my dearest love. I am so proud of you. Look how far you’ve come! Cheers to you! You are amazing. You amaze me.

xoxo

Maria 2016.

So, I just shared with you the most beautiful letter I received. And for this post, I am sharing with you why this letter is so important.

To give you some context, the other day I was doing some cleaning and uncluttering my stuff – apparently, it is good for ya – and I came across an envelope with my name on it. I opened and there it was this letter.

I gotta tell you. I felt in love with Maria. And I felt so loved, I felt so special. I was so happy to read how much I appreciated myself.

The question is: why did I decide to share this letter with you? Because it felt good loving myself. Because when you love yourself, you don’t care what other people think about you – and you are okay to be a total weirdo. Because this is the only way of loving someone else and expect nothing in return. What I want to tell you, is why you want to love yourself and how you can do it.

From what I heard, self-love is the pathway to your happiness. Self-love is the key to understanding others. True self-love, is the key to a good happy life.

Uh what? That sounds like mumbo jumbo stuff.

New flash, you gotta to love yourself, sisters and brothers. If you don’t love yourself, who else will? And the other thing, you must be grateful for the three you’s.

Uh what? More jumbo mumbo?

New flash, there are three you’s. There’s the past you, the present you, and the future you. And if you wanna love someone and have someone love you back, you gotta learn to love yourself, and the three you’s are the key.

You must be grateful to the past you for the positive things you’ve done. And do favours for the future you like you would for your best friend.

What do you mean Maria? Well, let me explain, it goes like this: you woke up today and you feel like tots crap. Stop a second. Think of a good decision you made yesterday. Did you go for a run instead of watching Netflix? That’s when you high five yourself and say: thanks younger me!

Now you need to think about doing a favour to your future self. Like you would’ve done to your best friend.

It goes like this: your alarm goes off but your bed is too comfy? “No! Screw you present self, I am getting up, I am going to go to that gym because I know it will feel good this afternoon.” All for the future you.

You see… That is how you create the cycle of doing something for someone else (future you) and thanking someone for the good in your life (past you). And that is key to building gratitude and productivity. Trust me, I read it in a book.

But hey, think with me: why wait for someone to tell you they love you when you can tell yourself? Why wait for someone to fall in love with you, when you can fall in love with yourself? Why expect someone else to tell you that you look good in those jeans, and you can tell yourself ‘damn hottie’.

I am not to sure what made me write that letter. But I gotta tell you something, I am writing more of those letters.

Because when you create this cycle of doing a favour for yourself and thanking yourself for the good things in life, you spread, over time, the gratitude to others who help you on your path.

And what I want for you to do right now, is to go home and write 3 things that you are grateful for your younger self and 3 things you will do for your future self.

Then, I want you to write the most beautiful letter to your future self and put somewhere away from your view, with the hope, that when you need the most you will find the letter.

Because I want you to remember that you have a unique contribution to the world, and you have a whole world to conquer.

As Rumi said, “If I love me, I love you. If you love you, you love me”.

PS: I love you.

Maria Selva

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